Membership Questions

How do I become a member? You petition for membership by emailing, and if accepted pay the membership fee.

Couples and single ladies are always welcome. However, if you do not have an acceptable profile on one of the major swingers' websites, the Mistress may ask to speak to the lady briefly on the phone before offering membership.

 A single man we don't know WILL NOT be able to join without a paid, seasoned profile on a major swingers' website or a reference from someone we know.  If your profile is too new or too sketchy to satisfy, you will be turned down. In addition, the gender ratio is always kept in mind. The more couples and single ladies who are registered at a given time, the more single men who will be allowed to join.

Married men cannot attend alone unless the wife tells us personally (as in face-to-face) that it is OK with her. Truly single men will always get priority.

What are the criteria? For couples and ladies, an open mind and enthusiasm for our mission. For single males, it's more complicated. Which males are admitted depends on a number of factors: age, attractiveness, experience and intelligence all count. If a lady requests a particular man, he's in. If a lady requests a particular type of man, that affects the selection. We also try to go for a diverse mix as much as possible.

How about transgender people?

You are entirely welcome to attend. How I treat your membership will have to be a case-by-case call.

Why so restrictive?

I screen out cheaters because some swingers don't want to associate with them for ethical reasons, and some single women like knowing there will be "available" guys at the party. Males are plentiful, so there are reasons to screen married men out and no compelling reasons not to. Unaccompanied women, however, are not plentiful, and males at the party don't care if the women are married, so we have an unabashed double standard. No, it's not "fair," and no, I don't care.

To Join

Email kinkyandavailable@yahoo.com (for now). Include: first name(s); handle(s) on SLS, AFF, APG and/or Fetlife, and an indication of your party experience.